Kokoro ga Sakebitagatterunda: a Tale of Expressing One’s True Feelings

Poor communication is a signal that something is wrong, but it itself is probably not the problem“, Art Markman writes in his article on examining complaints of poor communications. Nevertheless, poor communication is something that aggrandize the root problems. It happens to people regardless of age. But sometimes adults are no better than  teenagers in solving their problem. In fact, some teenagers can be better than adults due to the awareness of their own immaturity that brings them courage to fight their weakness.

Poster_Kokosake_01The heartwarming tale of some teenagers who, despite their weaknesses, fight to express their true feelings is what Tatsuyuki Nagai (director) and Mari Okada (author) convey in their collaboration work, Kokoro ga Sakebitagatterunda (The Anthem of the Heart)– a tale of friendships that presented in a fairy-tale-ish and musical style of storytelling.

The story revolves around a girl named Jun Naruse, an outgoing girl who likes to tell whatever she likes without thinking of the consequences, until one day when she finds that her words are the reason of her family’s broken relationship. Crying out of guilt, she meets a fairy egg who seals her mouth that she can’t hurt people with it anymore. Fast forward to high school years, Jun Naruse still becomes a person who is unable to convey anything, as she gets a stomachache in every time she speaks. Things get difficult when she’s appointed as the committee member of Outreach Community Event by her homeroom teacher, along with three other students –Takumi Sakagami, Natsuki Nito, and Daiki Tasaki.

The characters and plot development in this anime are shown smoothly in little events between each character, while accompanied by outstanding soundtracks in which many pieces are covers of well-known songs (such as  Somewhere Over the Rainbow, Greensleeves, a Beethoven Pathetique Sonata 2nd Movement and Around the World) that are overwritten into different Japanese lyrics. This movie brings you warmth and shows that there is power in music when the words fail, as long as you have courage.

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From left to right– Natsuki Nito, Takumi Sakagami, Jun Naruse, and Daiki Tasaki.

Alert: heavy spoilers!


Meet a lovely little girl who likes to daydream of a castle on top of the hill –Jun Naruse. She dreams that one day she will visit a ball in the castle with her prince. Then she, who doesn’t know that the object of her imagination is actually a love hotel, sees her father drives out of the castle with a woman. Being excited that her father may be a prince, she runs back home and casts the news to her mother.

Her innocent comment thus becomes the trigger of her parents’s divorce.

Knowing that his secret affair is revealed by his own daughter, a father chooses to give an irresponsible statement.

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The little girl cries, realizing that her words break her family. That’s when an egg fairy comes, telling her how not to face another turmoils and fulfill her dreams to meet a real prince in a real castle.

Then it puts a zipper on her mouth.

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In her high school years, Jun Naruse is still being someone who never talks. However, when she’s appointed by her homeroom teacher, Shimaccho, to be the committee member of Community Outreach Event, she pushes herself to speak up to reject her appointment, giving her a severe stomachache. The other appointed committee members, beside Natsuki Nito –Takumi Sakagami and Daiki Tasaki, also reject the idea of their involvement.

In DTM Club Room, the combination of students that are picked by Shimaccho gets an interesting comment by a class member, Aizawa, hinting that there may be a hidden agenda behind his committee picking.

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“An apathetic youth who locked up in his own shell (Takumi), a sulky high school baseball star with shattered dreams (Daiki), an eternally silent girl (Jun), and also a straight-arrow girl who always seems to be in charge (Natsuki). In terms of personalities, that’s east, south, west, and north!” – Aizawa

When visiting Shimaccho’ss room to give the resignation letter, Jun sees Takumi who’s playing accordion and singing random words about eggs. Startled that Takumi sings a song that matches with her life story, she runs away after tossing her letter into Shimaccho’s hands.

Takumi, who initially comes to Shimaccho’s room to resign, at the end can’t sacrifice any of his friends to replace him. He finally gives in to his new responsibility.

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In the next series of events, Jun is provoked a couple of times by Shimaccho, Natsuki, and Takumi’s words on the importance of expressing the true feelings, and how a music can be a good alternative to communicate.

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After opening up about her past and curse to Takumi via text messages, she’s wonderstruck by his idea for her to sing.

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“Singing or music, I think it always meant to convey something. So, if there’s something you want to say, don’t you think you should try singing? Maybe singing doesn’t count for the curse.” –Takumi

At night, when Jun tries to sing, she’s delighted to find that her stomach doesn’t hurt. Yet when a neighbor gives a visit, still she can’t find any courage to make a voice. Being resented by her mom, she runs away.

Amid her despair and frustation, she bombards Takumi with long text messages that contains an original fantasy story based on her life experience. She then pleads for Takumi to turn what she really wants to say into a song, just like what he did to the eggs.

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Unfortunately, things don’t go smoothly when they share the idea to the class.

Everyone is unmotivated and doubting the idea. Daiki even starts the blame game by pointing out Jun’s issue. The apathetic Takumi, triggered by Daiki’s ignorant statement, adds fuel to the fire by pointing back his problem with the baseball team, provoking Mishima. The situation is getting serious when, all of a sudden, Jun starts singing loudly, “I can do it, even though I have anxieties, I’m sure that I can.”

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By the sudden singing of a voice they never heard, a breeze of wonder swept through, cooling the heated conflict. After Jun runs away, Takumi and Mishima apologize to each other.

After that, the problems of each and between main characters are shown thoroughly one by one –Daiki with his conflict with the baseball team, Natsuki with her regrets toward her past relationship with Takumi, and Takumi with his apathy that caused by guilt due to his parent’s divorce. Meanwhile, Jun, as she fights to communicate and deal with the relationship with her mother, is somehow caught up in the middle of their problems, like when she shouts to Daiki and his teammates who are arguing, and how she lit a passion in Takumi as they open up to each other.

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The progress between Takumi and Jun itself triggers an unsettling feeling in Natsuki since she’s still consumed by her insecurity due to her inability to soothe Takumi’s pain in the past.

Meanwhile, the clock is ticking and the preparation for the event is continuing, not even once waiting for all the restlessness to relief. The built up emotion peaking, it threatens the event they spend all their time and energy in.

The bitter confrontation is started at night before the event. Natsuki, who’s exploded by jealousy, cries and accosts Takumi for his concern toward Jun. Takumi can’t help but agree though, he confirms, it’s not out of romantic feeling. It then leads the conversation to their ambiguous dating relationship, bringing them to confess their feelings for each other.

All the while without noticing another person’s presence.

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Jun who coincidentally listens to their conversation, runs away and once again meets the egg fairy. It confirms that it’s not her stomach that hurts for breaking the seal, but her heart instead. The egg fairy echoes the voice inside Jun’s heart, revealing her romantic feeling towards Takumi.

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It finally hatches the egg that’s already full of cracks. It’s a vivid illustration on how Jun’s feeling’s starting to burst out in ugly ways.

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In the next day, Jun doesn’t show up.

The whole class members are dumbfounded, knowing that Jun betrays them because of a triangle love. Daiki demands a call of action from Takumi whom he considers partly responsible for the incident. Takumi, who’s still in disbelief of Jun’s betrayal, decides to look for her. Daiki and Natsuki support his decision and ask for the class members’ cooperation, leading to some major changes in the cast.

The musical begins while Takumi goes out to look for Jun. The backstage atmosphere is more uneasy than it would be predicted due to the Jun’s disappearance. Some class members are seemed to be unsure of how they should feel in given condition, until one of them speaks in a casual manner, yet uplifting to those who hear it.

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“Whether she (Jun) shows up or not, we’re doing the same thing either way. But if the musical is messed up, I think she would regret it the most. So either way, we have to make it a success! After all that practice, I don’t want it to go to waste!”

Takumi finally finds Jun in the place she used to dream of. Beside an old bed in one of its ruined room, Jun lays. Refusing to go back, she starts to blame her talkativeness, says that “It’s like the egg said, I become unhappy because I spoke up.” Takumi denies its existence, pushing her to the edge, until she finally admits that she needs it to exist, or she’d be lost. It confirms that she uses imagination to cope with trauma, though unhealthily.

It’s heart breaking to see her throwing all her frustrations from her family relationship and feelings for Takumi. Actually, there are more healthy ways to cope with personal problems, but her parents’ treatment disturbs her emotional stability, demonstrating the conclusion of research from National University of Singapore, that overly critical parents lead their children to develop symptoms of depression and anxiety.

Takumi, determined to convince Jun to be more confident, asks her to hurt him. After listening to her shouts out of frustration towards him and Natsuki, instead of getting upset, Takumi states that he’s happy to hear her honest words, for it wakes the feelings he used to forget. This positive validation soothes Jun, helping her to regain composure.

Jun, before leaving for the musical, finally confesses her feeling for Takumi. Upon hearing his answer, she smiles bitterly, uttering a calm response, “I know.”

We finally get to see Jun’s singing in the last scene of the musicals. Entering from the public entrance, she surprises the audiences. While walking slowly towards the stage, Jun sings the song she writes, granting her wish to convey her true feelings, especially to her mom, who’s amid the audience starting to reflect on her mistakes.

When it reaches the closing scene of the musical, I lastly find my most favorite scene from the movie. It beautifully asserts the moral encouragement of the movie by combining the melodies of “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” and “Beethoven Pathetique Sonata 2nd Movement” tastefully. I feel no wonder that this movie was nominated in the 39th Japan Academy Prize as the best animation of the year.

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Completing the moral encouragement, the movie’s ending gives a hopeful flavor, leaving a sweet aftertaste without failing to appreciate the bitterness, by narrating using Takumi’s and Jun’s voices:

“What’s inside the egg? All kinds of feelings locked inside. Then, unable to keep them locked in, it explodes. And the world that’s created then is more beautiful than I ever thought.”

Little Notes #1

I am a weakling; the bravest kind of one.

I am swayed by your concerns, but I am willing to disappoint.

And your tears, I let it crushes my mind.

I am scared of being alone, but I am leaving you behind.

I am sure I will regret this, but I am blind,

For all I ever know is I have to try.

Children are Unfair

Some things are worth more than I thought.

It was my third week in Lublin, Poland, when I finally left again to another town. This time it was Kazimierz Dolny, the town on the eastern bank of Vistula River. I planned to use the same material I’ve been using since in Lublin, I had made some improvements based on my last session’s evaluations. Everything was perfect and well prepared.

Except, I was mistaken.


The last child had placed a picture of rhinoceros on a flat map of Indonesia. There you go, it officially ended the lesson of animal categorizing of The Biggest Archipelago Country. While the children were fascinated by the map–perhaps wondering why animals of the same country should be put into different boxes, I looked at the clock tensely. Still, I got more than 45 minutes left and had nothing else to do. I had been doing the same thing to children in Lublin, but these children’s speed in finishing tasks totally exceeded my schedule expectation. They were chatting and jumping excitedly here and there like rabbits while making all the tasks and before I knew it, they had already reached the finish line.

I took a glance at Snow, my teaching partner, hoping that somehow it would magically sprout an idea in my frustrated mind. It didn’t work. Some children were hanging on my arms like little monkeys (the cute one, of course) and pestering me, “Miss! Play again! Play! Play!” and the others began to follow their demand by clapping the table. Riot. If only making noise could help me.

Aggravation bubbled up in my chest all at once. I’ve always been sensitive to sensory triggers and I didn’t have many experiences in interacting with children. Combined with my failed effort to focus, that could be bad news.

I took a deep breath instead.

Let’s focus on what I could do before they become wilder than this. Following the inner dialogue was my effort to reach whatever inside my paper bag. Then I grabbed out rubbers that knotted in such a way until it becomes a rope. I totally forgot I’ve got this thing. I can use this!

Rope Jumping is a traditional game in Indonesia. Two people have to hold each end of the rope and adjust its height from the lowest and gradually becoming higher, while the others have to jump over it without touching it. The person who fails to do so has to replace the holder until someone else is failed. If the rope reaches the height above the player’s shoulders, it’s not rare to see them doing a sideways spin move. This game requires agility and hard work.

It didn’t take long until they began to completely indulge in the game. I watched them jumping and sometimes laughing at their friend’s failure. I taught those who seemed to have less agility how to jump correctly so they won’t fail so often.


The time was already over but they wouldn’t stop playing until their parents came over. Then they one by one began putting on their shoes and hugged me before rushing toward their parents, “Thank you very much, miss!”

There was only one person left in the waiting room. I took a peek inside to see who was left in the classroom. Someone was playing rope skipping alone. There was no one else to hold the rope for her.

“Ita. Your grandpa is here.” She turned toward me when I called her name. Rather than excited, she looked disappointed. “I want to play,” She murmured. But she still gave it back to me then put on her shoes.

“If you like it, you can take it with you.” I wasn’t sure if she understood my words, but my intention must have been clear when I gave the rope back to her. Her smile was slowly rising while I wasn’t fast enough stopping myself from getting struck. She hugged me tightly. “Thank you!”, she spoke out loud and then rushed toward her grandfather. She kept waving to me until they walked far enough. I  smiled faintly to the last glimpse of her back in the corner of the road before closing the door.

So, after pushing me vexatiously,  all my effort was only getting paid by a smile. Yet, I felt fulfilled. That was unfair.

…Or perhaps their merriment is that worthwhile.

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*originally created in 2013

Marriage Sentimentality of a Friend

Marriage is the song played on a continuous loop around me lately.

In a couple weeks, I’ve got seven wedding invitations from my friends –the friend I’ve never met since several years ago; high school classmates; hanging out friends; my close friend. I’ve never felt sentimental in any wedding before, until the most recent one.

I went to Jakarta in April to attend my close friend’s wedding. I wasn’t surprised to encounter many of his friends there since he is a lively and empathetic person who would warmly welcome any kind of people in his presence. His house is regularly visited by different people, so it is his thing to be surrounded by many people. I myself often asked for his advice for many things: from career to my relationship. He is someone I could turn to for advice when I was frustrated and too emotional to think clearly.

The wedding hall was decorated with fresh flowers. The light was warm and bright, yet the air was tense when they both sat on the aisle chairs. Everybody held their breath as the bride spoke, letting her gentle voice to be the only voice heard in the hall.

“…And today I will marry the man of my choice,” she ended her speech for her parents before the vow began. I was trembling out of the blue. I never really gave it a thought, then a sentimentality suddenly burst out. After this, he would be a husband before anybody’s friend. This moment also marked a change for us as friends as he stepped into the world I would never understand lest I step in myself. He took a distance from his friends to be with the woman of his choice –someone anyone else would never be.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m totally happy for both of them.

I’m just never used to goodbyes.

I understand that everyone and everything are constantly changing. But knowledge couldn’t help an overwhelmed feeling. I’ve always been fighting to accept that one day our distance will grow further as we walk to the different direction.

I absorbed the cheerful ambience after the vow is spoken. There was a slight relief in his eyes, accompanied by a childlike smile as if finally getting what he’s always wanted. I took a deep breath and encouraged myself to, despite my melancholy, soak in every detail of the happiness.

Since as Og Mandino said, today will never happen again.

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On My Flight to Dubai

Honey, I’m cold, I couldn’t bring myself to ignore what I’ve just heard. I didn’t mean to eavesdrop or anything, but my seat was right next to them. It was the same bass voice that asked me my name and my destination just a couple minutes ago; the voice that got me imagining him standing on a stage in front of his subordinates while saying, We’re going through a little trouble here, but worry not, everything will be fine”; the voice of a respectable leader. He told me before that he is a businessman. After seeing that composed smile on his wise middle-aged facial features, I would bet he had to be someone everyone ran off to every time any trouble occurs to seek a solution or just to find a breeze of comfort.

The lady beside me pulled up a blanket and covered him, while he leant on her arm. I was still observing them from the corner of my eye when he spoke again, Thank you, honey”. I saw a blissful smile on his lips.

No matter how tough we might appear, people always have a delicate side that wants to be spoiled like a child. It must be nice to have someone accepting and gently touching it. Their joy touched me too by seeing how they were detached from the world, yet, too deep inside their own’s. They had no idea that their natural gesture had inspired a restless stranger.

I guess it’s possible to be home when hitting the road.

*Originally created on 13th July of 2013

What it Feels Like to be INFP #INFPSeries

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) test is a common psychology test, yet, many people already refute its significance, mostly because it only contains 16 types and there’s no way such complicated humanity can be broken down into only 16 individual types.

I have to agree. MBTI test has to be taken by people who wish to know their type by answering questions about their own personality and preference. If analyzed using Johari Window Model, it means MBTI test only receive data from one source (you) who only contain two windows of information about your personality —Arena (known to you, known by others) and Facade (known to you, not known by others).

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Still, I have a hobby to check out any personality test given out there because sometimes it leads me to new information about me. Some other times, it just because I can feel understood and related to some abstractions. For a while, I can convert my self-definitions of being ‘weird’ or ‘aloof’ to something more positive-sounding words: introvert.

When I took MBTI test, I finally get to know what are these –sadness, weirdness, distance, and persistence, that live in me called. All of these traits don’t come out as abnormal in the test, fortunately. Instead, it’s called INFP (Find your type here). I can’t believe when I read the descriptions from a lot of sources. Feels like they’re describing my life.

Now, I want to share some experiences I have as INFP and what it feels like to be one. If anyone who read this wants to understand an INFP or perhaps you are INFP who want to feel related to something… Hope this helps.

INFP often gets emotional for small reasons.

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I cry not only when break up happens. Sometimes I cry looking at the gray cloud when people complain how it’s gonna be rain again, and I thought perhaps actually Mr. Cloud only wants to bestow his blessing to people on earth. And I secretly wish that rain is not his sad tears, cause I like it so much. Another example is that I often get upset hearing hatred speech, cause no one deserves to be hated, in my opinion. INFP heart is just full of dramas, and we can’t help but to feel.

On the contrary, INFP finds it hard to show emotion explicitly.

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feeling the freest in expressing emotions when being alone

Looking up at my journal, I found out that loneliness is the most theme of my life. When I was younger I thought I didn’t have real friends despite many acquaintances I have. As I grow older, at some points in life, I finally realized that my loneliness was always my own state of mind. I did and I do have friends. And despite all that, it’s me who’s always been closing my heart and shutting down my own feeling, getting absorbed in loneliness, almost feel like enjoying it.

Knowing this doesn’t change the fact that I can’t show emotion easily to others. Even when I’m feeling emotional, my tears stop at the edge of my eyes when I hear footsteps other than mine. And I wouldn’t call myself someone with rich expressions, either. I think this is a kind of shyness that won’t let me leak my true feeling to others easily, especially through speeches or expressions.

INFP secretly romanticize misery.

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kind of face INFP makes when they’re sad and angry.

Maybe not all INFP. But I believe some of us do. I do it secretly because I know it’s not a wise thing to say in given situation. There’s no good way to say that their tears are beautiful when they’re crying out of real sadness. In the other hand, I also hate that some people want to be perceived as sad because it’s romantic. See, it becomes like a love-hate thing for me.

I love tears when it’s a sign of a sadness relief and self-honesty. Thus, I see it as a step to be tougher and to be more genuine. And I hate tears when it becomes a manipulation. Every tear that poured down means nothing if it’s not sincere.

INFP is quietly resolute.

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I respect your personal belief but when you try to convince me to agree with everything you say, I would be like…

 

It’s surprising for some of my friends that I can turn from an easy going person to a tense one. Basically, I like listening to various thoughts on the same matter because it becomes materials for my own self-reflection. However, when someone takes my easy going attitude too boldly and trying to convince me against my own values and principles, I would become vigilant right at the moment. I’m willing to listen to arguments and I’m forever thankful for people who’ve changed my mind, but I won’t give in to pushy speeches that try convince or order me around without giving me chances to give it a thought. As a result, no matter how many hours someone incessantly spend their time to convince or softly order me to do something, I would just say, “I’ll think about it,” or “No,” and ended up doing different things than they expected me to. I don’t bother falling into arguments unless it’s necessary and worth it.

INFP is mostly reserved, yes. We listen, yes. We do want to understand, yes. But we know what we want, and that’s not going to change by force. We will change if we want to change, or if it’s wise to change.

The Challenge is to Accept

One of the biggest challenges I have to live in this world as INFP, is to tone down my idealism. I dream of a utopia where humanity is kind and fulfilled. I know that’s probably impossible. The world itself is filled with paradoxes and contradictions. And at some point in my life, I realize that it’s unwise to force my idealism onto everyone because that means I would take away their chance to fulfill themselves by making their own decision. I guess the paradox lives in me as well.

Knowing this is one thing,  accepting it is another thing. It takes mental effort to let someone do their thing, even you know that it’s a big mistake, because they can only learn to clean up their mess after making the mistake. It takes mental effort to let someone live an unfulfilled life even you feel their difficulty, because it’s their choice to stand by serving someone else instead of themselves. It takes mental effort to be harsh to someone, because every kind reminder doesn’t work to wake them up. Every bad thing is a good thing. Every good thing is a bad thing.

Even though I know that it’s probably impossible, I couldn’t stop wanting it. It takes courage of INFP to pursue idealism while accepting that it might not happen at all.

For my part I know nothing with any certainty, but the sight of the stars make me dream– Vincent Van Gogh

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Hello, everyone. I’m currently thinking to share my personal life experiences and also references in the form of #INFPSeries. I thought it would be helpful to those who find their type as INFP and wanting to get to know themselves more by finding our similarities. This is the first post I made with that thought in mind and I still have some more ideas to work on. Please let me know if you have any idea by sending me emails or through the comment section. See you!

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Hidup Ala Mahasiswa: Cara Seru-seruan yang Hemat

Sejak dulu saya suka mencoba hal-hal baru dan menarik. Rasanya kalau sudah lama melakukan hal yang sama, saya jadi cepat bosan dan tidak terinspirasi. Hal-hal seru yang dimaksud di sini tidak selalu berarti sesuatu yang ekstrem, tapi bisa saja hal sederhana yang memang belum pernah kita lakukan. Contohnya, saat SD saya sengaja ikut kakak saya menonton konser Element yang waktu itu masih booming karena saya tidak pernah nonton konser sebelumnya. Tapi namanya juga anak sekolah, masih dibatasi macam-macam oleh orang tua, jadi seringkali keinginan seru yang dianggap nyeleneh ditolak oleh beliau berdua.

Batasan yang kadang membuat saya terkekang ini untungnya mulai melonggar setelah kelulusan SMA, atau tepatnya setelah saya resmi jadi mahasiswa. Jam kuliah yang fleksibel dan ragam kegiatan yang susah diikuti jadwalnya oleh orang tua membuat saya lebih bebas menentukan kegiatan dan batasan diri sendiri. Keuntungan sebagai mahasiswa tentu saja selalu diikuti oleh tantangannya. Karena kebebasan sudah diberikan, maka kepercayaan pun harus dijaga. Selain menjaga diri sendiri, hal penting lainnya yang harus dijaga adalah finansial pribadi. Sebagai mahasiswa biasanya kita diberi keleluasaan mengatur finansial sendiri dengan diberikan sejumlah uang yang cukup besar untuk segala macam kebutuhan. Pokoknya uangnya sebanyak itu, untuk apa, bagaimana caranya, berapa, itu semuanya kita atur sendiri. Kalau tidak hati-hati bisa-bisa kita habiskan semuanya untuk kegiatan seru-seruan. Padahal kehidupan mahasiswa membutuhkan banyak biaya untuk tugas-tugas dan sebagainya.

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mahasiswa punya banyak tugas dan biaya!

Pada awalnya saya pun sedikit kerepotan karena saat itu adalah pengalaman pertama mengatur keuangan pribadi dalam jangka sangat panjang. Padahal saya sendiri juga sering tergoda untuk melakukan banyak hal seru, apalagi sebagai mahasiswa kesempatan untuk melakukannya juga terbuka lebar. Setelah melewati proses trial and error, akhirnya saya menemukan cara-cara agar tetap bisa seru-seruan, hemat, dan bertanggungjawab sebagai mahasiswa. Inilah cara-cara saya:

Membuat budgeting bulanan.

Perkirakanlah kebutuhan kamu setiap bulan dan juga biayanya. Ini termasuk biaya makan, transportasi, pulsa, bayar kuliah, tugas-tugas, dan kebutuhan pokok lainnya. Baru berapapun sisanya, itulah biaya yang sebaiknya kamu gunakan untuk seru-seruan. Pokoknya, jangan tukar skala prioritas ini dan disiplinlah dalam menjalankannya, kalau tidak mau terlibat masalah keuangan yang di masa depan bisa menjerat kamu sendiri. Banyak juga lho teman-teman mahasiswa yang tidak disiplin mengatur keuangan dan berakhir menggadaikan banyak barang atau berhutang sana-sini, padahal kebiasaan buruk ini bisa menggerogoti karir dan keuanganmu di masa depan. Kalian tidak mau kan, belum apa-apa sudah bangkrut duluan?

Cari versi murah bahan-bahan tugas.

Kalau di perencanaanmu budget untuk seru-seruan belum cukup, coba cari cara untuk mengurangi pengeluaranmu. Biasanya yang paling mungkin dipangkas adalah biaya bahan-bahan tugas. Sebisa mungkin carilah versi murahnya. Daripada membeli buku coba pinjam di perpustakaan atau fotokopi materi dari kakak tingkat, atau daripada menghabiskan uang untuk print out bahan konsultasi ke dosen, coba usul pada dosen agar bisa menyerahkan bahan konsultasi dalam bentuk soft file. Kalau penghematan tersebut dilakukan berulang-ulang, dijamin budget biaya tugasmu akan tersisa dan bisa kamu salurkan untuk biaya seru-seruan.

Cari pemasukan sampingan.

Kalau masih belum puas juga, coba tambah pemasukan kamu dengan bisnis sampingan. Kehidupan mahasiswa punya lahan usaha besar yang potensial untuk dimanfaatkan, lho. Hal ini karena di kehidupan akademik ada banyak orang-orang yang kamu temui yang memiliki berbagai macam kepentingan dan sering membutuhkan tenaga bantuan untuk menyelesaikan semuanya. Contohnya, kamu bisa menyediakan jasa terjemahan materi kuliah bagi mereka yang kesulitan berbahasa inggris, menyediakan jasa input data penelitian untuk dosen, jasa membagikan kuisioner penelitian mahasiswa-mahasiswa tingkat akhir, bahkan menyediakan jasa antar katering untuk mahasiswa super sibuk! kalau kamu coba perhatikan lagi, masih banyaaakkk lagi celah di sekitarmu yang bisa kamu jadikan usaha tambahan.

Cari diskon atau voucher diskon.

Ini adalah ultimate technique untuk mahasiswa yang suka seru-seruan versi hemat: berburulah diskon atau voucher diskon. Setiap bisnis biasanya akan menerapkan strategi diskon ini saat sedang mempromosikan produknya. Celah inilah yang bisa kamu manfaatkan untuk menekan biaya seru-seruanmu. Kuncinya adalah timing yang pas, karena tidak setiap saat diskon itu diadakan, jadi kamu harus menyambar kesempatan saat momen itu datang!

Asyiknya, sekarang sudah tidak susah seperti dulu untuk berburu diskon. Kamu tidak perlu sengaja mengikuti berbagai akun dan mengecek timeline setiap hari supaya tidak melewatkan kesempatan diskon. Sekarang sudah ada layanan e-coupon online yang berbentuk aplikasi smartphone berbasis android dan IOS yang mudah untuk digunakan, jadi kamu nggak perlu repot-repot mencari informasi tiap vendor bisnis yang kamu mau, karena kalau mereka memberi diskon kebanyakan akan lewat layanan ini. Ditambah layanan ini sering memberikan promo-promo ekslusif yang tidak tersedia untuk umum. Contoh layanan semacam ini adalah Dealoka (download Dealoka di sini). Hmm, rasanya seperti dapat harta tersembunyi ya, kalau kita bisa dapat voucher diskon sementara yang lain harus membayar harga penuh untuk produk yang sama?

Ini adalah ultimate technique untuk mahasiswa yang suka seru-seruan versi hemat: berburulah diskon atau voucher diskon.

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Ngomong-ngomong, ada satu keuntungan tambahan kalau kamu membeli voucher diskon semacam ini, yaitu kamu berarti sudah memastikan budgetmu (yang sudah dipotong oleh jumlah diskon) dan itu membuatmu lebih akurat dalam menjalankan perencanaan keuangan, selain membuatmu lebih hemat pastinya. Tentu saja kamu tidak hanya bisa memanfaatkan voucher diskon untuk kegiatan seru-seruan, aplikasi voucher diskon memiliki banyak kategori voucher yang berguna untuk kehidupan akademik ataupun sehari-hari. Contohnya di screenshot Dealoka di atas ada voucher diskon untuk placement tes kursus bahasa inggris, institusi yang banyak diperlukan oleh mahasiswa. Jadi, layanan voucher diskon pun bisa membantu kamu menghemat keperluan akademik dan juga keperluan sehari-hari.

Kehidupan mahasiswa memang bebas dan juga penuh tantangan, ini juga merupakan fase untuk membuktikan kesungguhan pada diri sendiri, baik dalam segi pengembangan diri, pendidikan, dan juga kestabilan finansial. Namun, bukan berarti kamu harus terlalu tegang dalam menghadapinya karena seru-seruan itu juga penting untuk anak muda. Semoga cara-cara tadi bisa membantumu mengatur kehidupan ala mahasiswa. Berprestasi itu harus, tapi jangan lupa nikmati kehidupan! 🙂

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Hujan dan Dunia yang Hening

Ada yang sedikit tidak biasa pada diri saya. Saat awan gelap muncul atau justru airnya sudah mulai jatuh jadi hujan, saya ingin keluar. Saya ingin keluar ruangan saat orang lain ingin berlindung di bawah atap. Karena saat hujan orang akan menyingkir. Saat hujan saya bisa memiliki dunia yang hening, hanya tersisa suara air jatuh dan kadang juga petir. Kalau saya bernyanyi tidak ada yang mendengar. Kalau saya menari tidak ada yang melihat.

Salah satu penyesalan saya saat hujan adalah harus memakai pelindung, jas hujan maupun payung. Karena akan terlihat aneh kalau saya hujan-hujanan begitu saja, sampai rumah ruangan akan basah semua, dan karena handphone dan earphone yang selalu saya gunakan untuk mendengarkan musik belum punya teknologi waterproof jadi harus saya lindungi dari air.

Sebenarnya saat hujan saya lebih suka jalan kaki karena pacenya lambat, jadi saya lebih bisa menikmati suasana. Sayangnya sedikit susah mencari lokasi jalan kaki yang enak di Semarang, jadi saya lebih sering memanfaatkan sepeda motor untuk jalan-jalan saat hujan. Atau kalau hujan turun dalam perjalanan pulang ke rumah, saya akan sengaja mencari rute memutar jauh demi menikmatinya, dan sengaja melambatkan kecepatan sepeda motor.

Saat di Seoul, saya bisa lebih sering jalan kaki saat hujan karena kota itu lebih ramah terhadap pejalan kaki. Ketika sudah hafal dengan sistem transportasi di Seoul dan percaya dengan keamanannya, saya suka nekat jalan-jalan sendirian tanpa arah dan tujuan. Terkadang bisa sampai jalan di perumahan kompleks tak dikenal, di pinggir jalan raya yang padahal nggak ada trotoarnya dan nggak ada orang disitu selain saya, pernah juga jalan menyeberangi Jembatan Banpo (Jembatan Pelangi) selama satu jam tanpa sadar, sampai bingung gimana caranya melihat pelanginya, padahal pelanginya nggak bisa kelihatan dari atas jembatannya, melainkan harus dari jauh dan melihat ke arah jembatan. 😛 Kalau sudah capek jalan, saya tinggal istirahat di kafe untuk mampir minum yang panas-panas atau mencari restoran Juk (Bubur Korea) yang bertebaran di sana.

Keheningan yang saya rasakan saat jalan-jalan sendirian di tengah hujan biasanya membawa banyak inspirasi. Baik itu berbentuk ide lirik, ide tulisan blog, atau pemikiran random saja yang suka saya hubungkan dengan teori yang saya dapat dari buku. Terkadang inspirasi jalanan saya menguatkan teori yang saya pelajari, tapi tidak jarang juga mengkontradiksi teori. Kadang jalan-jalan ini menenangkan saya, dan kadang juga membuat pusing saya dengan mengalirnya banyak pikiran random, yang saya artikan saja bisa bikin tambah pintar, hehe. Pokoknya, bagi yang belum pernah mencoba, saya merekomendasikan kegiatan ini untuk memberi quality time bagi pikiran yang sering terusik bisingnya dunia.

By the way, sebagai tambahan, saya ingin membagi playlist lagu saya saat dalam rainy mood. Setiap saat saya memejamkan mata dan mendengarkan lagu-lagu ini saya selalu bisa membayangkan hujan. Playlist ini berisi lagu-lagu dengan beat medium dan sound yang “basah”, dan beberapa di antaranya memang punya tema hujan. So, hope you’ll like it!

  1. Motohiro Hata – Rain

2. Yiruma – Spring Rain

3. Adam Levine – A Higher Place

4. Tulus – Bumerang