Children are Unfair

Some things are worth more than I thought.

It was my third week in Lublin, Poland, when I finally left again to another town. This time it was Kazimierz Dolny, the town on the eastern bank of Vistula River. I planned to use the same material I’ve been using since in Lublin, I had made some improvements based on my last session’s evaluations. Everything was perfect and well prepared.

Except, I was mistaken.


The last child had placed a picture of rhinoceros on a flat map of Indonesia. There you go, it officially ended the lesson of animal categorizing of The Biggest Archipelago Country. While the children were fascinated by the map–perhaps wondering why animals of the same country should be put into different boxes, I looked at the clock tensely. Still, I got more than 45 minutes left and had nothing else to do. I had been doing the same thing to children in Lublin, but these children’s speed in finishing tasks totally exceeded my schedule expectation. They were chatting and jumping excitedly here and there like rabbits while making all the tasks and before I knew it, they had already reached the finish line.

I took a glance at Snow, my teaching partner, hoping that somehow it would magically sprout an idea in my frustrated mind. It didn’t work. Some children were hanging on my arms like little monkeys (the cute one, of course) and pestering me, “Miss! Play again! Play! Play!” and the others began to follow their demand by clapping the table. Riot. If only making noise could help me.

Aggravation bubbled up in my chest all at once. I’ve always been sensitive to sensory triggers and I didn’t have many experiences in interacting with children. Combined with my failed effort to focus, that could be bad news.

I took a deep breath instead.

Let’s focus on what I could do before they become wilder than this. Following the inner dialogue was my effort to reach whatever inside my paper bag. Then I grabbed out rubbers that knotted in such a way until it becomes a rope. I totally forgot I’ve got this thing. I can use this!

Rope Jumping is a traditional game in Indonesia. Two people have to hold each end of the rope and adjust its height from the lowest and gradually becoming higher, while the others have to jump over it without touching it. The person who fails to do so has to replace the holder until someone else is failed. If the rope reaches the height above the player’s shoulders, it’s not rare to see them doing a sideways spin move. This game requires agility and hard work.

It didn’t take long until they began to completely indulge in the game. I watched them jumping and sometimes laughing at their friend’s failure. I taught those who seemed to have less agility how to jump correctly so they won’t fail so often.


The time was already over but they wouldn’t stop playing until their parents came over. Then they one by one began putting on their shoes and hugged me before rushing toward their parents, “Thank you very much, miss!”

There was only one person left in the waiting room. I took a peek inside to see who was left in the classroom. Someone was playing rope skipping alone. There was no one else to hold the rope for her.

“Ita. Your grandpa is here.” She turned toward me when I called her name. Rather than excited, she looked disappointed. “I want to play,” She murmured. But she still gave it back to me then put on her shoes.

“If you like it, you can take it with you.” I wasn’t sure if she understood my words, but my intention must have been clear when I gave the rope back to her. Her smile was slowly rising while I wasn’t fast enough stopping myself from getting struck. She hugged me tightly. “Thank you!”, she spoke out loud and then rushed toward her grandfather. She kept waving to me until they walked far enough. I  smiled faintly to the last glimpse of her back in the corner of the road before closing the door.

So, after pushing me vexatiously,  all my effort was only getting paid by a smile. Yet, I felt fulfilled. That was unfair.

…Or perhaps their merriment is that worthwhile.

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*originally created in 2013

Marriage Sentimentality of a Friend

Marriage is the song played on a continuous loop around me lately.

In a couple weeks, I’ve got seven wedding invitations from my friends –the friend I’ve never met since several years ago; high school classmates; hanging out friends; my close friend. I’ve never felt sentimental in any wedding before, until the most recent one.

I went to Jakarta in April to attend my close friend’s wedding. I wasn’t surprised to encounter many of his friends there since he is a lively and empathetic person who would warmly welcome any kind of people in his presence. His house is regularly visited by different people, so it is his thing to be surrounded by many people. I myself often asked for his advice for many things: from career to my relationship. He is someone I could turn to for advice when I was frustrated and too emotional to think clearly.

The wedding hall was decorated with fresh flowers. The light was warm and bright, yet the air was tense when they both sat on the aisle chairs. Everybody held their breath as the bride spoke, letting her gentle voice to be the only voice heard in the hall.

“…And today I will marry the man of my choice,” she ended her speech for her parents before the vow began. I was trembling out of the blue. I never really gave it a thought, then a sentimentality suddenly burst out. After this, he would be a husband before anybody’s friend. This moment also marked a change for us as friends as he stepped into the world I would never understand lest I step in myself. He took a distance from his friends to be with the woman of his choice –someone anyone else would never be.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m totally happy for both of them.

I’m just never used to goodbyes.

I understand that everyone and everything are constantly changing. But knowledge couldn’t help an overwhelmed feeling. I’ve always been fighting to accept that one day our distance will grow further as we walk to the different direction.

I absorbed the cheerful ambience after the vow is spoken. There was a slight relief in his eyes, accompanied by a childlike smile as if finally getting what he’s always wanted. I took a deep breath and encouraged myself to, despite my melancholy, soak in every detail of the happiness.

Since as Og Mandino said, today will never happen again.

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What it Feels Like to be INFP #INFPSeries

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) test is a common psychology test, yet, many people already refute its significance, mostly because it only contains 16 types and there’s no way such complicated humanity can be broken down into only 16 individual types.

I have to agree. MBTI test has to be taken by people who wish to know their type by answering questions about their own personality and preference. If analyzed using Johari Window Model, it means MBTI test only receive data from one source (you) who only contain two windows of information about your personality —Arena (known to you, known by others) and Facade (known to you, not known by others).

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Still, I have a hobby to check out any personality test given out there because sometimes it leads me to new information about me. Some other times, it just because I can feel understood and related to some abstractions. For a while, I can convert my self-definitions of being ‘weird’ or ‘aloof’ to something more positive-sounding words: introvert.

When I took MBTI test, I finally get to know what are these –sadness, weirdness, distance, and persistence, that live in me called. All of these traits don’t come out as abnormal in the test, fortunately. Instead, it’s called INFP (Find your type here). I can’t believe when I read the descriptions from a lot of sources. Feels like they’re describing my life.

Now, I want to share some experiences I have as INFP and what it feels like to be one. If anyone who read this wants to understand an INFP or perhaps you are INFP who want to feel related to something… Hope this helps.

INFP often gets emotional for small reasons.

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I cry not only when break up happens. Sometimes I cry looking at the gray cloud when people complain how it’s gonna be rain again, and I thought perhaps actually Mr. Cloud only wants to bestow his blessing to people on earth. And I secretly wish that rain is not his sad tears, cause I like it so much. Another example is that I often get upset hearing hatred speech, cause no one deserves to be hated, in my opinion. INFP heart is just full of dramas, and we can’t help but to feel.

On the contrary, INFP finds it hard to show emotion explicitly.

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feeling the freest in expressing emotions when being alone

Looking up at my journal, I found out that loneliness is the most theme of my life. When I was younger I thought I didn’t have real friends despite many acquaintances I have. As I grow older, at some points in life, I finally realized that my loneliness was always my own state of mind. I did and I do have friends. And despite all that, it’s me who’s always been closing my heart and shutting down my own feeling, getting absorbed in loneliness, almost feel like enjoying it.

Knowing this doesn’t change the fact that I can’t show emotion easily to others. Even when I’m feeling emotional, my tears stop at the edge of my eyes when I hear footsteps other than mine. And I wouldn’t call myself someone with rich expressions, either. I think this is a kind of shyness that won’t let me leak my true feeling to others easily, especially through speeches or expressions.

INFP secretly romanticize misery.

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kind of face INFP makes when they’re sad and angry.

Maybe not all INFP. But I believe some of us do. I do it secretly because I know it’s not a wise thing to say in given situation. There’s no good way to say that their tears are beautiful when they’re crying out of real sadness. In the other hand, I also hate that some people want to be perceived as sad because it’s romantic. See, it becomes like a love-hate thing for me.

I love tears when it’s a sign of a sadness relief and self-honesty. Thus, I see it as a step to be tougher and to be more genuine. And I hate tears when it becomes a manipulation. Every tear that poured down means nothing if it’s not sincere.

INFP is quietly resolute.

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I respect your personal belief but when you try to convince me to agree with everything you say, I would be like…

 

It’s surprising for some of my friends that I can turn from an easy going person to a tense one. Basically, I like listening to various thoughts on the same matter because it becomes materials for my own self-reflection. However, when someone takes my easy going attitude too boldly and trying to convince me against my own values and principles, I would become vigilant right at the moment. I’m willing to listen to arguments and I’m forever thankful for people who’ve changed my mind, but I won’t give in to pushy speeches that try convince or order me around without giving me chances to give it a thought. As a result, no matter how many hours someone incessantly spend their time to convince or softly order me to do something, I would just say, “I’ll think about it,” or “No,” and ended up doing different things than they expected me to. I don’t bother falling into arguments unless it’s necessary and worth it.

INFP is mostly reserved, yes. We listen, yes. We do want to understand, yes. But we know what we want, and that’s not going to change by force. We will change if we want to change, or if it’s wise to change.

The Challenge is to Accept

One of the biggest challenges I have to live in this world as INFP, is to tone down my idealism. I dream of a utopia where humanity is kind and fulfilled. I know that’s probably impossible. The world itself is filled with paradoxes and contradictions. And at some point in my life, I realize that it’s unwise to force my idealism onto everyone because that means I would take away their chance to fulfill themselves by making their own decision. I guess the paradox lives in me as well.

Knowing this is one thing,  accepting it is another thing. It takes mental effort to let someone do their thing, even you know that it’s a big mistake, because they can only learn to clean up their mess after making the mistake. It takes mental effort to let someone live an unfulfilled life even you feel their difficulty, because it’s their choice to stand by serving someone else instead of themselves. It takes mental effort to be harsh to someone, because every kind reminder doesn’t work to wake them up. Every bad thing is a good thing. Every good thing is a bad thing.

Even though I know that it’s probably impossible, I couldn’t stop wanting it. It takes courage of INFP to pursue idealism while accepting that it might not happen at all.

For my part I know nothing with any certainty, but the sight of the stars make me dream– Vincent Van Gogh

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Hello, everyone. I’m currently thinking to share my personal life experiences and also references in the form of #INFPSeries. I thought it would be helpful to those who find their type as INFP and wanting to get to know themselves more by finding our similarities. This is the first post I made with that thought in mind and I still have some more ideas to work on. Please let me know if you have any idea by sending me emails or through the comment section. See you!

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Hidup Ala Mahasiswa: Cara Seru-seruan yang Hemat

Sejak dulu saya suka mencoba hal-hal baru dan menarik. Rasanya kalau sudah lama melakukan hal yang sama, saya jadi cepat bosan dan tidak terinspirasi. Hal-hal seru yang dimaksud di sini tidak selalu berarti sesuatu yang ekstrem, tapi bisa saja hal sederhana yang memang belum pernah kita lakukan. Contohnya, saat SD saya sengaja ikut kakak saya menonton konser Element yang waktu itu masih booming karena saya tidak pernah nonton konser sebelumnya. Tapi namanya juga anak sekolah, masih dibatasi macam-macam oleh orang tua, jadi seringkali keinginan seru yang dianggap nyeleneh ditolak oleh beliau berdua.

Batasan yang kadang membuat saya terkekang ini untungnya mulai melonggar setelah kelulusan SMA, atau tepatnya setelah saya resmi jadi mahasiswa. Jam kuliah yang fleksibel dan ragam kegiatan yang susah diikuti jadwalnya oleh orang tua membuat saya lebih bebas menentukan kegiatan dan batasan diri sendiri. Keuntungan sebagai mahasiswa tentu saja selalu diikuti oleh tantangannya. Karena kebebasan sudah diberikan, maka kepercayaan pun harus dijaga. Selain menjaga diri sendiri, hal penting lainnya yang harus dijaga adalah finansial pribadi. Sebagai mahasiswa biasanya kita diberi keleluasaan mengatur finansial sendiri dengan diberikan sejumlah uang yang cukup besar untuk segala macam kebutuhan. Pokoknya uangnya sebanyak itu, untuk apa, bagaimana caranya, berapa, itu semuanya kita atur sendiri. Kalau tidak hati-hati bisa-bisa kita habiskan semuanya untuk kegiatan seru-seruan. Padahal kehidupan mahasiswa membutuhkan banyak biaya untuk tugas-tugas dan sebagainya.

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mahasiswa punya banyak tugas dan biaya!

Pada awalnya saya pun sedikit kerepotan karena saat itu adalah pengalaman pertama mengatur keuangan pribadi dalam jangka sangat panjang. Padahal saya sendiri juga sering tergoda untuk melakukan banyak hal seru, apalagi sebagai mahasiswa kesempatan untuk melakukannya juga terbuka lebar. Setelah melewati proses trial and error, akhirnya saya menemukan cara-cara agar tetap bisa seru-seruan, hemat, dan bertanggungjawab sebagai mahasiswa. Inilah cara-cara saya:

Membuat budgeting bulanan.

Perkirakanlah kebutuhan kamu setiap bulan dan juga biayanya. Ini termasuk biaya makan, transportasi, pulsa, bayar kuliah, tugas-tugas, dan kebutuhan pokok lainnya. Baru berapapun sisanya, itulah biaya yang sebaiknya kamu gunakan untuk seru-seruan. Pokoknya, jangan tukar skala prioritas ini dan disiplinlah dalam menjalankannya, kalau tidak mau terlibat masalah keuangan yang di masa depan bisa menjerat kamu sendiri. Banyak juga lho teman-teman mahasiswa yang tidak disiplin mengatur keuangan dan berakhir menggadaikan banyak barang atau berhutang sana-sini, padahal kebiasaan buruk ini bisa menggerogoti karir dan keuanganmu di masa depan. Kalian tidak mau kan, belum apa-apa sudah bangkrut duluan?

Cari versi murah bahan-bahan tugas.

Kalau di perencanaanmu budget untuk seru-seruan belum cukup, coba cari cara untuk mengurangi pengeluaranmu. Biasanya yang paling mungkin dipangkas adalah biaya bahan-bahan tugas. Sebisa mungkin carilah versi murahnya. Daripada membeli buku coba pinjam di perpustakaan atau fotokopi materi dari kakak tingkat, atau daripada menghabiskan uang untuk print out bahan konsultasi ke dosen, coba usul pada dosen agar bisa menyerahkan bahan konsultasi dalam bentuk soft file. Kalau penghematan tersebut dilakukan berulang-ulang, dijamin budget biaya tugasmu akan tersisa dan bisa kamu salurkan untuk biaya seru-seruan.

Cari pemasukan sampingan.

Kalau masih belum puas juga, coba tambah pemasukan kamu dengan bisnis sampingan. Kehidupan mahasiswa punya lahan usaha besar yang potensial untuk dimanfaatkan, lho. Hal ini karena di kehidupan akademik ada banyak orang-orang yang kamu temui yang memiliki berbagai macam kepentingan dan sering membutuhkan tenaga bantuan untuk menyelesaikan semuanya. Contohnya, kamu bisa menyediakan jasa terjemahan materi kuliah bagi mereka yang kesulitan berbahasa inggris, menyediakan jasa input data penelitian untuk dosen, jasa membagikan kuisioner penelitian mahasiswa-mahasiswa tingkat akhir, bahkan menyediakan jasa antar katering untuk mahasiswa super sibuk! kalau kamu coba perhatikan lagi, masih banyaaakkk lagi celah di sekitarmu yang bisa kamu jadikan usaha tambahan.

Cari diskon atau voucher diskon.

Ini adalah ultimate technique untuk mahasiswa yang suka seru-seruan versi hemat: berburulah diskon atau voucher diskon. Setiap bisnis biasanya akan menerapkan strategi diskon ini saat sedang mempromosikan produknya. Celah inilah yang bisa kamu manfaatkan untuk menekan biaya seru-seruanmu. Kuncinya adalah timing yang pas, karena tidak setiap saat diskon itu diadakan, jadi kamu harus menyambar kesempatan saat momen itu datang!

Asyiknya, sekarang sudah tidak susah seperti dulu untuk berburu diskon. Kamu tidak perlu sengaja mengikuti berbagai akun dan mengecek timeline setiap hari supaya tidak melewatkan kesempatan diskon. Sekarang sudah ada layanan e-coupon online yang berbentuk aplikasi smartphone berbasis android dan IOS yang mudah untuk digunakan, jadi kamu nggak perlu repot-repot mencari informasi tiap vendor bisnis yang kamu mau, karena kalau mereka memberi diskon kebanyakan akan lewat layanan ini. Ditambah layanan ini sering memberikan promo-promo ekslusif yang tidak tersedia untuk umum. Contoh layanan semacam ini adalah Dealoka (download Dealoka di sini). Hmm, rasanya seperti dapat harta tersembunyi ya, kalau kita bisa dapat voucher diskon sementara yang lain harus membayar harga penuh untuk produk yang sama?

Ini adalah ultimate technique untuk mahasiswa yang suka seru-seruan versi hemat: berburulah diskon atau voucher diskon.

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voucher diskon Dealoka – kategori fun & activities

Cara memakai aplikasi dealoka

Ngomong-ngomong, ada satu keuntungan tambahan kalau kamu membeli voucher diskon semacam ini, yaitu kamu berarti sudah memastikan budgetmu (yang sudah dipotong oleh jumlah diskon) dan itu membuatmu lebih akurat dalam menjalankan perencanaan keuangan, selain membuatmu lebih hemat pastinya. Tentu saja kamu tidak hanya bisa memanfaatkan voucher diskon untuk kegiatan seru-seruan, aplikasi voucher diskon memiliki banyak kategori voucher yang berguna untuk kehidupan akademik ataupun sehari-hari. Contohnya di screenshot Dealoka di atas ada voucher diskon untuk placement tes kursus bahasa inggris, institusi yang banyak diperlukan oleh mahasiswa. Jadi, layanan voucher diskon pun bisa membantu kamu menghemat keperluan akademik dan juga keperluan sehari-hari.

Kehidupan mahasiswa memang bebas dan juga penuh tantangan, ini juga merupakan fase untuk membuktikan kesungguhan pada diri sendiri, baik dalam segi pengembangan diri, pendidikan, dan juga kestabilan finansial. Namun, bukan berarti kamu harus terlalu tegang dalam menghadapinya karena seru-seruan itu juga penting untuk anak muda. Semoga cara-cara tadi bisa membantumu mengatur kehidupan ala mahasiswa. Berprestasi itu harus, tapi jangan lupa nikmati kehidupan! 🙂

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Hujan dan Dunia yang Hening

Ada yang sedikit tidak biasa pada diri saya. Saat awan gelap muncul atau justru airnya sudah mulai jatuh jadi hujan, saya ingin keluar. Saya ingin keluar ruangan saat orang lain ingin berlindung di bawah atap. Karena saat hujan orang akan menyingkir. Saat hujan saya bisa memiliki dunia yang hening, hanya tersisa suara air jatuh dan kadang juga petir. Kalau saya bernyanyi tidak ada yang mendengar. Kalau saya menari tidak ada yang melihat.

Salah satu penyesalan saya saat hujan adalah harus memakai pelindung, jas hujan maupun payung. Karena akan terlihat aneh kalau saya hujan-hujanan begitu saja, sampai rumah ruangan akan basah semua, dan karena handphone dan earphone yang selalu saya gunakan untuk mendengarkan musik belum punya teknologi waterproof jadi harus saya lindungi dari air.

Sebenarnya saat hujan saya lebih suka jalan kaki karena pacenya lambat, jadi saya lebih bisa menikmati suasana. Sayangnya sedikit susah mencari lokasi jalan kaki yang enak di Semarang, jadi saya lebih sering memanfaatkan sepeda motor untuk jalan-jalan saat hujan. Atau kalau hujan turun dalam perjalanan pulang ke rumah, saya akan sengaja mencari rute memutar jauh demi menikmatinya, dan sengaja melambatkan kecepatan sepeda motor.

Saat di Seoul, saya bisa lebih sering jalan kaki saat hujan karena kota itu lebih ramah terhadap pejalan kaki. Ketika sudah hafal dengan sistem transportasi di Seoul dan percaya dengan keamanannya, saya suka nekat jalan-jalan sendirian tanpa arah dan tujuan. Terkadang bisa sampai jalan di perumahan kompleks tak dikenal, di pinggir jalan raya yang padahal nggak ada trotoarnya dan nggak ada orang disitu selain saya, pernah juga jalan menyeberangi Jembatan Banpo (Jembatan Pelangi) selama satu jam tanpa sadar, sampai bingung gimana caranya melihat pelanginya, padahal pelanginya nggak bisa kelihatan dari atas jembatannya, melainkan harus dari jauh dan melihat ke arah jembatan. 😛 Kalau sudah capek jalan, saya tinggal istirahat di kafe untuk mampir minum yang panas-panas atau mencari restoran Juk (Bubur Korea) yang bertebaran di sana.

Keheningan yang saya rasakan saat jalan-jalan sendirian di tengah hujan biasanya membawa banyak inspirasi. Baik itu berbentuk ide lirik, ide tulisan blog, atau pemikiran random saja yang suka saya hubungkan dengan teori yang saya dapat dari buku. Terkadang inspirasi jalanan saya menguatkan teori yang saya pelajari, tapi tidak jarang juga mengkontradiksi teori. Kadang jalan-jalan ini menenangkan saya, dan kadang juga membuat pusing saya dengan mengalirnya banyak pikiran random, yang saya artikan saja bisa bikin tambah pintar, hehe. Pokoknya, bagi yang belum pernah mencoba, saya merekomendasikan kegiatan ini untuk memberi quality time bagi pikiran yang sering terusik bisingnya dunia.

By the way, sebagai tambahan, saya ingin membagi playlist lagu saya saat dalam rainy mood. Setiap saat saya memejamkan mata dan mendengarkan lagu-lagu ini saya selalu bisa membayangkan hujan. Playlist ini berisi lagu-lagu dengan beat medium dan sound yang “basah”, dan beberapa di antaranya memang punya tema hujan. So, hope you’ll like it!

  1. Motohiro Hata – Rain

2. Yiruma – Spring Rain

3. Adam Levine – A Higher Place

4. Tulus – Bumerang

New is Always Hopeful and Dangerous

My sister born a baby girl last week. Now I’ve got three little humans around me. Though it  is predicted to be super tiring, there are strings of new hope shrouding along. As I watch the tiny face of Aulia –the baby girl, I feel the hope is getting grander. It is the face of loveliness, of perfection. This might be the girl who will bring the joy and completeness in our family, this girl shall never disappoint, this girl shall be a good example of how human being should be. This person shall never make the same mistakes I did, especially those which corrupted me.

However, by the second thought, I apologize to her already. She’s born to this world not by her choice. And I give her another burden already by expecting a perfection.

I speak to her as I look at my reflection in mental mirror. I know I made mistakes my parents wouldn’t be proud of, and I’ve been trying to forgive myself since then. I crafted pains perhaps as much as I painted smiles, but I made promise to make every bad times paid off by working on the lessons. I became scarred and occasionally dark, but mostly tough and alright.

Now I am hopeful cause she is newly born. She is still as pure as an angel. And like normal human being, I, too, don’t want to pollute any kind of purity. But it’s not fair to keep her perfect cause we should always do the dirty works for her. But perhaps we won’t live longer than her, then when we’re not around, a little dirt will pollute her worse than anyone else. While the journey itself won’t be pleasant, for we should keep her safe and tight… like in a closed jar. Is it fair to take her freedom, just to fulfill our expectation about her?

“Honey, you’ll grow up and you’ll make mistakes. That’s fine. You’ll decide many things, loved and hated for it, and that’s fine. Sometimes you’ll be hurt and treated unfairly while learning about life, that’s fine. You won’t be perfect. But you’ll be good, beautiful, and wise. And we’re here to guide you for as long as we can.”

She blinks. I’m not sure if she understands, but at least I do.

Every new thing is hopeful and dangerous. The new job is expected to be well paid and rewarding. The new travel journey is expected to be exciting. The new relationship is expected to be constantly, eternally happy. Sometimes we put ourselves in that closed jar to make sure it’s fulfilled. That’s when we choose monetized over voluntary tasks in our job, favorite touristic places over random streets in travel destinations, ignoring little red flags over talking about it in relationships. We’re afraid to ruin what we seem already have –a hopeful beginning for a perfect ending. But I’m more afraid that what we desperately try to avoid is chasing after us in uglier ways. I guess the world is slapping bad things onto good, to create a balance.

That’s why, I’d rather take it little by little dose than huge by huge dose. Especially when I’m talking about the newly born’s perfection. If bad things shall happen to her, so be it. I’ll be prepared to guide her, but I won’t expect a perfection. I’m just hopeful that she’ll turns out good no matter what happens.

Nyaman yang Bergaya saat Traveling

Salah satu perhatian terbesar saat persiapan traveling bagiku adalah pemilihan outfit. Karena traveling umumnya menuntut aktivitas banyak jalan kaki dan memiliki banyak keadaan yang tidak bisa diprediksi -seperti lari saat mengejar kereta, hujan mendadak, keadaan ramai dan penuh sesak, dsb, maka kenyamanan jadi pertimbangan utamaku dalam memilih outfit travelling. Sepatu? Pilihan utama biasanya sneakers atau sepatu olahraga. Baju? Yang paling nyaman ya pilih kaus saja. Tapi walaupun aku tahu bahwa kenyamanan outfit itu yang paling utama saat traveling, pada akhirnya aku pun tetap saja pusing memilih-milih baju yang akan dibawa.

Yah, aku tidak bisa menyangkal kalau terlihat menarik itu juga penting buatku. Sementara, berdasarkan pertimbangan kenyamanan saja, aku hanya melihat tumpukan celana jeans, kaus, dan sepatu olahraga. Hmm, kurang menarik. Padahal, sebagai orang yang peduli penampilan kan aku juga ingin terlihat bagus di foto, ditambah lagi, berpenampilan bagus akan membuatku terlihat tidak terlalu ‘turis’ yang biasanya hanya berkaus oblong, celana jeans, sandal, dan ransel, yang biasanya jadi sasaran utama para penipu dan copet. Jadi, sebenarnya ini berguna juga untuk keamanan pribadi.

Setelah menambahkan pertimbangan penampilan ke dalam pemilihan outfit traveling dan menghabiskan evaluasi berbagai baju yang pernah aku gunakan sebelumnya, akhirnya aku berhasil memutuskan beberapa pieces andalan yang hampir selalu dan akan selalu aku pakai saat traveling. Bahkan, kalau harus beli baju lagi, mungkin aku akan sering membeli baju-baju semacam itu untuk traveling, karena itu sudah menjadi semacam zona nyaman dalam berpenampilan saat traveling. Tidak salah kan untuk menyimpan sedikit zona nyaman di saat kita sedang di luar zona nyaman? 😉

Jadi, ini dia listnya:

Footwears – Sepatu lari, sepatu berbahan kulit (leather), dan sepatu bot.

  • Sepatu lari sudah jelas. Kalau nyaman dipakai lari, apalagi dipakai jalan kaki! Tapi bentuknya menurutku bulky dan sangat sporty, jadi tidak selalu cocok dipadupadankan dengan semua jenis baju. Apalagi kakiku juga tidak slim dan jenjang, menggunakan sepatu lari secara penampilan jadi agak tricky dan kurang fleksibel. Tapi karena nyaman banget, jadi aku selalu bawa ini ke mana-mana. Terutama aku pakai saat kegiatan outdoor yang berhubungan dengan alam.
  • Sepatu berbahan kulit ini bukan sepatu yang suka dipakai pria ke acara pernikahan lho ya. Sepatu berbahan kulit ada berbagai macam modelnya, untuk traveling pilih saja model yang paling kasual. Meskipun biasanya agak mahal, sepatu ini sangat awet, dan sangat nyaman dipakai jalan kaki, dan stylenya chic, jadi sepasang sepatu ini saja sudah bisa ‘menyelamatkan’ berbagai macam style travelingku yang kadang kelewat cuek. Kekurangannya, bahan sepatu ini rentan terhadap air dan cuaca ekstrem jadi ini bukan jenis sepatu yang cocok untuk dipakai hiking atau kegiatan alam, lebih cocok untuk jalan di kota.
  • Sepatu bot yang bagus kualitasnya jadi modal yang baik untuk traveling di banyak kondisi. Bahkan kalau jeli mencari, pasti bisa menemukan sepatu bot yang nyaman, kuat, modelnya bagus, dan bisa menambah sedikit tinggi badan –menguntungkan untuk orang-orang yang butuh sokongan tinggi badan seperti aku, hehe.

Outers – Jaket parka, coat.

satu outers yang stylish bisa menambah nilai style pakaian yang super basic sekalipun. Selain itu, jaket parka dan coat adalah jenis outer yang menurutku paling berguna untuk banyak kondisi saat traveling -bisa melindungi dari cuaca dingin, menyimpan barang-barang kecil di saku, melindungi badan, dan juga bisa menutupi badan dan wajah kalau kita tidur di tempat umum. Khusus untuk winter, pastikan coat yang dibawa adalah coat khusus untuk winter, ya! (Jangan tiru kesalahanku yang pernah meremehkan dinginnya winter di Korea, hehe)

One Piece Clothes – Playsuit/ jumpsuit

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Sudah tidak perlu didebat lagi kalau playsuit/ jumpsuit adalah pilihan paling nyaman dan paling stylish yang bisa didapatkan traveler wanita. Yang aku suka dari playsuit/ jumpsuit sendiri adalah fakta kalau satu baju saja sudah termasuk atasan dan bawahan dan warna-warnanya cerah dan menarik, jadi hemat ruang di tas sekaligus bisa lebih banyak bawa pilihan baju bagus 😛 dan sekarang playsuit wanita warna cerah sudah berbagai macam modelnya jadi aku tidak perlu susah mencari model yang cocok atau pusing mix and match saat traveling. Jadi praktis dan stylish!

By the way, Sekarang ini playsuit wanita warna cerah sudah bisa didapatkan di mana saja, bahkan tidak perlu ke toko. Sekarang sudah banyak e-commerce yang menyediakan pilihan style seperti ini. Sebagai contohnya, coba cek saja MatahariMall.com yang menyediakan playsuit/ jumpsuit yang lucu-lucu. Bahkan orang yang hemat seperti aku pun suka tergoda saat browsing.

Demikianlah list outfit andalanku saat traveling. Jangan lupa bahwa kenyamanan dan penampilan bisa dijunjung bersamaan, jadi jangan menyerah menentukan outfit travelingmu!

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Love the Done

Not everything done is excellent.

But appreciation is the fuel of spirit.

It fuels to drive –the bad to normal, the normal to good, the good to great.

To make something done is hard enough, when the world is tempting them to quit or hold back.

They maybe the one most devastated looking at their own self.

And you maybe the one who light up hope to the almost dying hero,

just with a little love.